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Alfie Kohn

Dátum narodenia: 15. október 1957

Alfie Kohn je americký autor a lektor v oblasti vzdelávania, výchovy s ľudského správania. Je zástancom postupného vzdelávania je kritikom mnohých tradičných aspektov rodičovstva Riadenie.


„Deti sa učia správne rozhodovať tým, že robia rozhodnutia, a nie tým, že výkonávajú príkazy.“

„In a word, learning is decontextualized. We break ideas down into tiny pieces that bear no relation to the whole. We give students a brick of information, followed by another brick, followed by another brick, until they are graduated, at which point we assume they have a house. What they have is a pile of bricks, and they don't have it for long.“ Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes


„Some who support [more] coercive strategies assume that children will run wild if they are not controlled. However, the children for whom this is true typically turn out to be those accustomed to being controlled— those who are not trusted, given explanations, encouraged to think for themselves, helped to develop and internalize good values, and so on. Control breeds the need for more control, which is used to justify the use of control.“ Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes

„People will typically be more enthusiastic where they feel a sense of belonging and see themselves as part of a community than they will in a workplace in which each person is left to his own devices“ Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes

„Even before i had children, I knew that being a parent was going to be challenging as well as rewarding. But I didn'tknow.
I didn't know how exhausted it was possible to become, or how clueless it was possible to feel, or how, each time I reached the end of my rope, I would somehow have to find more rope.
I didn't understand that sometimes when your kids scream so loudly that the neighbors are ready to call the Department of Child Services, it's because you've served the wrong shape of pasta for dinner.
I didn't realize that those deep-breathing exercises mothers are taught in natural-childbirth class dont really start to pay off until long after the child is out.
I couldn't have predicted how relieved I'd be to learn that other peoples children struggle with the same issues, and act in some of the same ways, mine do. (Even more liberating is the recognition that other parents, too, have dark moments when they catch themselves not liking their own child, or wondering whether it's all worth it, or entertaining various other unspeakable thoughts).
The bottom line is that raising kids is not for whimps.“
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

„In short, with each of the thousand-and-one problems that present themselves in family life, our choice is between controlling and teaching, between creating an atmosphere of distrust and one of trust, between setting an example of power and helping children to learn responsibility, between quick-fix parenting and the kind that's focused on long-term goals.“ Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

„How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.“ Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

„Many of our elected officials have virtually handed the keys to our schools over to corporate interests. Presidential commissions on education are commonly chaired by the executives of large companies.“ The Schools Our Children Deserve: Moving Beyond Traditional Classrooms and "Tougher Standards"


„John Dewey reminded us that the value of what students do 'resides in its connection with a stimulation of greater thoughtfulness, not in the greater strain it imposes.“

„Let me note, finally, that most of the research for this book was done in the libraries of Harvard University, the size of whose holdings is matched only by the school's determination to restrict access to them. I am delighted to have been able to use these resources, and it hardly matters that I was afforded this privilege only because the school thought I was someone else.“ No Contest: The Case Against Competition

„The way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions.“ Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

„Far from helping students to develop into mature, self-reliant, self-motivated individuals, schools seem to do everything they can to keep youngsters in a state of chronic, almost infantile, dependency. The pervasive atmosphere of distrust, together with rules covering the most minute aspects of existence, teach students every day that they are not people of worth, and certainly not individuals capable of regulating their own behavior.“ Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes


„Few parents have the courage and independence to care more for their children’s happiness than for their success.“ Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

„Like any other tool for facilitating the completion of a questionable task, rewards offer a "how" answer to what is really a "why" question.“ Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes

„Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it’s what the learner learns.“ Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason

„The more we want our children to be (1) lifelong learners, genuinely excited about words and numbers and ideas, (2) avoid sticking with what’s easy and safe, and (3) become sophisticated thinkers, the more we should do everything possible to help them forget about grades.“

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